What is your Parenting Style?

No one has all the answers when it comes to raising happy and healthy children.
However, research shows that certain approaches to parenting make a big difference. Even grandparents and non-traditional caregivers can benefit from a better understanding of their parenting style and how they communicate and connect with the children in their lives.

Please take the following quiz if you would like to explore your parenting style. When you finish, we will give you some feedback on what you are doing that benefits your child and some ideas on how to improve your approach to help them thrive in the world!
Please answer the following questions

I am responsive to my child’s feelings and needs.

I take my child’s wishes into consideration before I ask them to do something.

I explain to my child how I feel about their good/bad behaviour.

I encourage my child to talk about their feelings and problems.

I encourage my child to speak their mind freely even if they disagree with me.

I explain the reasons behind my expectations.

I provide comfort and understanding when my child is upset.

I consider my child’s preferences when making plans for the family (ie. holidays).

I respect my child’s opinion and encourage them to express them.

I treat my child as an equal member of the family.

When my child asks me why they have to do something, I tell them it’s because I said

I punish my child by taking privileges away from them (e.g., TV, games, vising

I tend to yell when I disapprove of my child’s behaviour.

I openly criticise my child when their behaviour does not meet my expectations.

I punish my child by withholding emotional expressions (e.g., kisses and cuddles).

Once I explain my expectations to my child, I expect them to follow my rules.

I am firm when my child throws a tantrum to show them that getting upset is not a

I set the rules of the house with no negotiation.

I use threats as a form of punishment with little or no justification.

When I give my child a direction, I expect them to do as they are told.

I find it difficult to discipline my child.

I give into my child when they cause a commotion about something.

I spoil my child to show them how much I love them.

I like being the “cool” parent.

I ignore my child’s bad behaviour.

I spend more time threatening my child with punishment than actually following

When my child and I argue I feel guilty because I hate when there’s conflict between

When I don’t approve of my child’s friendships, I feel conflicted about interfering
and being too controlling.

I like to discuss any new rules in the house with my child.

I show my child over the top affection as a sign of approval.

I don’t think discipline works very well.

I believe that kids will be kids so no matter what I do, they will have to learn
own lessons.

When my child and I argue I can let it go because I don’t want to continue arguing
about it.

It is more important to have food on the table than it is to talk about every issue
with my child.

I expect my child to monitor their own behaviour and face the consequences if they
make a bad decision.

I think it is important for children to learn from their own mistakes.

I think there are too many “helicopter” parents who watch their children’s every

I try to stay out of the way when my child is learning a new skill so they can
on their own.

I allow my child to organise their own activities as a way to build their

I feel OK when my child and I have an argument as I see it as a way to better
understand each other.


Your dominant parenting style is “Responsive”

Responsive parents accept the nature of their child and the changing environment. They tend to
be reasonable and nurturing towards their child. They set clear boundaries and expectations and
maintain clear and open communication. They value both positive and negative emotions and a
child’s expression of them. Through shared experience they work with their child to learn about
emotions and use problem-solving to address them.

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    Your dominant parenting style is “Firm”

    Firm parents have high expectations of their children and tend to be less nurturing. They often see
    negative emotions as being bad and expression of them as inappropriate behaviour. They will
    however praise appropriate behaviour. They give orders and tend to reject ideas or opinions that
    go against their views and authority. They set firm boundaries and tend to be less flexible to their
    child’s needs.

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      Your dominant parenting style is Easy-going

      Easy-going parents tend to be very affectionate, indulge their children’s whims and requests and
      oYen give in when challenged by their child. They have minimum control over what their children
      does and set few or inconsistent boundaries. They are supportive of all their child’s emotions but
      tend to eliminate any negative emotions by using distractions (e.g. bribery).

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        Your dominant parenting style is

        Free range parents tend to leave children to their own devices as a way to build their
        independence. They do not set boundaries and do not feel the need to organise every aspect of
        their child’s life. They accept that their child will express a full range of their emotions, but
        sometimes lack the skills to help them identify and label their emotion and problem-solve through

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